MY or ME – Which should we use?


“Do you mind MY asking” or “Do you mind ME asking?

There is a very subtle difference between: “Do you mind MY asking?” and “Do you mind ME asking?” It is sometimes difficult to know whether to use MY or ME, and it’s just another little snippet of English grammar to learn.


With a relative clause: Do you mind if I ask you a question?
Do you mind if I talk?
With a gerund: Do you mind my asking you a question?
Do you mind my talking?
With a verb: Do you mind me asking you a question?
Do you mind me talking?


MY or ME or IF

  • With “DO YOU MIND IF I ask you a question?” – we could also say: “Do you mind that somebody (anybody) asks you a question?” Here the important phrase is ‘Do you mind’ ?
  • When we use “Do you mind MY ASKING you a question?” – we use the possessive adjective MY because the word ‘asking’ is actually a gerund (a verb which is being used as a noun) and we mean “Do you mind that I am asking you a question”. Here ‘asking’ is the important word.
  • But when we use ME, we are asking whether you mind that it is ME specifically who is doing the asking and not somebody else. Here ‘asking’ is being used as a verb. We could also say: “Do you mind that it is ME who asks you the question?” Here, the pronoun ME is the important word.


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